In today’s post, I’d like to talk a little bit about peer pressure.
First of all, let me begin by saying that I don’t think that peer pressure is something totally negative. We all live in a society and we cannot fully develop as individual human beings without interacting with people and adopting some of their habits and interests. We can only learn who we truly are and what works for us by going out into the wild, dangerous world and having meaningful social experiences. We need to make mistakes and associate with wrong people for some time before we can find out what kind of company is compatible with our true selves. If our peers are good, honourable, and wise individuals, then we can only benefit from associating with them. In astrological terms, the kind of people we associate with can be analysed by looking at a person’s third and eleventh house. There is a subtle differences between these two placements. The third house deals with one’s immediate associates, siblings, colleagues, neighbours, and team members, while the eleventh house is related to wider network circles, clubs, and those who bring affluence (or misery and poverty!) to our lives. In my experience, afflictions to the third house indicate issues with team cooperation or frictions with neighbours, while troubled eleventh house may show attraction to a wrong type of peers who do not help us with the realisation of our ambitions, hopes, and wishes. Furthermore, for judging the quality of a person’s friendships, the condition of natal Mercury and Venus need to be taken into consideration.
I believe that each person has their own creative destiny to fulfil. Everyone is different and has their own unique talents to offer to the world. As an astrologer, I notice an interesting tendency — people who have their natal Sun located in Libra or Taurus (the signs ruled by Venus) tend to be more inclined to follow movements and peers rather than doing what they are inspired towards. While not everyone is meant to be a leader and originator of novelty in this world (and don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with following movements and helping them to grow), everyone should at least learn how to manage their own “kingdom” efficiently. When you are doing what everyone else is doing, you may lose sight of your inner ideal, your own unique destiny. Neither your friends nor your family members can fully know what is good for you. No matter how close you feel to them, your paths will never completely intertwine, they will never be the same. This does not mean that you cannot be inspired by what they do or what they think. Ultimately, however, everyone has to carry their own One Ring to Mount Doom. Remember that the Fellowship of the Ring was only meant to protect the Ring-bearer Frodo on his journey to Mordor. They could not do the job for him.
Please keep the above considerations in mind when you interact with your peers. Pick what is good and nourishing to you, reject what do not make you fulfilled or do not further your personal growth. Be kind and compassionate to those who do not share all of your aspirations and goals.
Last but not least, if you would like to learn more about your capacity for navigating friendships and discover how you can improve this area of your life, feel free to check my astrological SERVICES.
Thank you for reading.